My original reason for beginning this series was due to the fact that Alec Peters had joined a so-called “anti-bullying” group called Trekkers Against Bullying. I actually had this installment written and ready to post just before I found out that he had either been asked to leave the group, or left of his own accord, as I detailed in the recently-posted Interlude 2.

To be honest, if his exit from that group had been handled differently – both by the TAB admins and Alec himself – I might have considered taking a bit of a break before continuing my story. But sadly, despite their claim that they asked Alec to leave, the TAB admins allowed him to post an exit diatribe, then removed their public page from Facebook and made their group unsearchable…and then to punctuate things, Alec posted an additional tirade to the Axanar website. (Again, see Interlude 2 for screenshots)

So because I already had this written, and because Alec used his exit from an anti-bullying group to attack more people, it seems apt to continue telling my story. As a reminder, I detailed in part 3 that I came under full attack by Alec Peters – and his girlfriend Crysstal – in the summer of 2021…

Not long after Alec made posts that directly threatened me, the following exchange happened – because apparently one of Alec’s followers believes that “lawsuits should be the last course of action” but is totally ok with Alec’s abuse use (?) of the legal system as long as it doesn’t directly effect him:

(The above comments can be found on an Axamonitor post from 7/9/21 – again, I feel the need to point out that while it denotes me as a “moderator” in this screenshot, that’s because I took it recently – I was not yet an Axamonitor mod at the time of these comments)

At that point, I *personally* came to the conclusion that if someone was still ‘friends” with, following, or defending, Alec Peters, they were in one of two groups: (1) they didn’t want to ‘rock the boat’ by unfriending/unfollowing him, or (2) they were in the ‘well he hasn’t done anything wrong to me, so he can’t be all that bad’ mindset.

I had already been eying the handful of mutual Facebook friends that I had with Alec and Crysstal (mostly people I had met at conventions who were acquaintances at best) with more than a little trepidation. In the end, the aforementioned exchange pushed me to action, especially as it also made me consider the fact that while Crysstal might have eventually come at me of her own accord, she did not make public statements against me until after an acquaintance of mine brought my name into things (again, see part 3 for that exchange).

This combination of events spurred me to remove that person – and every other mutual friend I had with Alec and Crysstal – from my Facebook friends on or around July 11, 2021…because I did not, and do not, have to (nor will I) associate, even just in the online realm, with anyone who associates with them.

The crazy thing is that the screenshot that I shared in part 3 – the one that showed some comments made by Crysstal that included a creepy photo of Dean and I that was taken at a group dinner they were somehow invited to, and some accusations that she made based on that photo – is actually from after I removed our mutual friends…as is the following somewhat incoherent post that, in true fashion for these people, does not directly name myself or Dean, but is pretty obviously about us (and it seems to be about that Curtis person as well, though again, it’s pretty incoherent so who knows ::shrug::):

Just a reminder: Alec Peters, Crysstal’s significant other, attacked ME with threats of lawsuits. More than once. Shoot, I couldn’t even make a simple statement like “Libel is the publication of false information about a person that causes injury to that person’s reputation. Truth is one libel defense” without him directing an entire post at me – one that once again threatened me (see #4 in the screenshot below) as well as using the term “sweetie” in that oh-so-fun passive-aggressive way that is generally used when someone is trying to downplay a [usually femme-presenting] person’s authority or status, and/or when someone is acting as if the person they are addressing isn’t intelligent enough to understand what they’re about to say…

Not only did ALEC come at ME, but I still to this day have zero idea what Crysstal is referring to when she mentions “gossip” and “two faced conversations from you and several other cowards”, or “Don’t gossip about me and be surprised when you are overheard. Especially when you are doing it in writing”. Particularly as I didn’t mention her in private messages, ever, not even with Dean, prior to their attacks on me in the summer of 2021…nor can I find mentions of her by me in posts or comments prior to that time. And as I said above, I had very few mutual “friends” with either of them, and of the ones who did exist before I cleaned up my friend list, I didn’t actually converse with but one of them on a regular basis.

As for some of the other things she was mentioning – while I have never seen anything about “awful messages” from an Axamonitor admin, I certainly can’t say they don’t exist/didn’t happen, but no matter what has occurred before or since, if they did, I would be the first person to make a stink about it, no matter how I feel about her or anyone in the Axanar camp. And it also seems as if she might believe that I am somehow accountable for these messages I’ve never seen (and also never even heard about prior to her making this post)…that, if they do exist, very likely occurred before I had anything to do with the Facebook group in question.

After I had an (admittedly heated, though considering the circumstances, understandably so) exchange with Crysstal on her Facebook page on 7/22/21 (due to her posting the creeper photo of Dean sitting next to each other at a group dinner at Dragon Con 2019), I blocked her and Alec. Granted, this was done with the understanding that, with Axamonitor being a public group, anything I said in there – or even the rare public posts I made on my own Facebook page – could and probably would end up being seen by them, whether it be via a sock account or their followers taking screenshots and sending these to Alec and Crysstal. (Something that, from what I’ve been told, absolutely continues to happen to this day any time I make a public post about basically anything – yes, even on my personal Facebook and/or Twitter accounts, and yes, regardless of whether or not it has anything to do with them…and it almost never does.)

Anyway, in the wake of their continued posts/comments about us/directed at us, Dean took a page from my book and announced that he would be removing any remaining mutual friends that he had with Alec and/or Crysstal. This was in the third week of July, 2021, and yes, he did send private messages to a few mutual “friends” he had with them who he believed he had been close with, because he wanted to let them know what was going on in case they hadn’t seen his post about removing people who remained friends with them. But for the most part, anyone we cared about completely understood where we were coming from – we weren’t asking anyone to step up or speak out, just making it very clear that we did not have to, and would not, remain friends (even if it was just on social media) with people who would sit back and watch us suffer Alec and Crysstal’s threats toward, harassment of, and/or lies about us.

And this is where I will end part 4, because unlike me, Dean DID have a large number of mutual friends with both of them (after all, he was friends with Alec for quite a long time before their falling out), and unfortunately Dean exercising his right to cultivate his own Facebook friend list opened its own can of worms :-/

Previous Installments:
Part 1: I’m Not a Star Trek Fan
Interlude: Proving My Point
Part 2: I’m Not an “Axanar Hater”
Part 3: I’m Not Perfect
Interlude 2: Too Little, Too Late?
Continue Reading:
Part 5: I’m Going to Protect My Family
Interlude 3: The Aftermath of an Interview